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Domestic Abuse

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is any type of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between people who are or have been intimate partners or family members.

Domestic abuse can be psychological, physical, sexual, financial, and emotional and can include stalking, blackmail, hitting, kicking, rape, controlling finances, online abuse and forced marriage.

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone and is generally rooted in the abuser's desire for power and control.

I think I need help

In any relationship there can be times when we might argue or disagree but if you recognise or have experienced any of the signs on the unhealthy relationship list you should seek support.

Nobody has the right to abuse you in this way. It is not your fault and you are not alone. There are options and support available to help you decide what to do next.

Be Supported

Make sure you are safe

  • If you are in immediate danger or are seriously injured, call 999.
  • If you can, find a place where you feel safe. If this isn't possible you can:
    • Call Campus Security on 01642 342086 or go to their office, Ground Floor, The Library building. They can offer you a physical or CCTV escort across campus if you are feeling vulnerable and you can report any issues to them directly.
    • If you are in Middlesbrough,Safe Spaces is a service for students where they can seek help and refuge if needed. Businesses that take part in this scheme can be easily identified by the yellow Safe Spaces stickers in their windows. This service is for students who feel threatened or vulnerable and they can expect to be given somewhere to sit for a short period of time, first aid (if needed) and a taxi can be called for them. Current Safe Spaces in Middlesbrough.
    • Go to the Students' Union. All venue staff are either SIA Door Supervisor qualified or working towards their qualification.
    • Make a safety plan. A personal safety plan can help to increase your own safety by helping you to plan in advance for the possibility of future violence and abuse. Women’s Aid give advice on making a safety plan.
  • Get advice

  • My Sisters Place is an independent specialist one-stop-shop for women aged 16 or over who have experienced or are experiencing domestic violence. The service includes domestic violence support workers, counselling, women’s groups and a sanctuary scheme. You can speak to a support worker on 01642 241864. If you need someone to talk to out of office hours you can contact the Women's Aid 24-hour helpline on 0808 2000 247.
  • The Halo Project is a national charity that will support victims of honour-based violence, forced marriages and FGM by providing appropriate advice and support to victims. The project includes a survivors group, temporary accommodation and advocacy. In an emergency call 08081 788 424 (free phone). When it’s not an emergency but you need to speak to someone for some advice, call 01642 683045.
  • A friend, family member or someone you can trust. Talking to someone you trust about what you have experienced can sometimes help.
  • Student and Library Services. You can talk to a student adviser in confidence and discuss the options available to you, including informing the police, and how to access further support. The adviser will also provide continuing support for any action that you may decide to take. Go to the first floor of the Student Centre Building and ask to see a Student Adviser through our drop-in service which is available between 9.30am - 4.00pm, Monday to Friday. Or you can call 01642 342277 to book an appointment with a Student Adviser at the drop-in.
  • Teesside University Students' Union. The Students' Union Student Support offers independent advice and their friendly and confidential service can provide support and advice. Student Support is on the first floor of the Students' Union Building and is open 10.00am - 4.00pm (Monday to Thursday) and 11.00am - 4.00pm (Friday).
  • Report an incident

  • To the police. Domestic abuse is a criminal offence. You should call 999 in an emergency or 101 in a non-emergency or you can go to the local police station in person to report an incident. All police services treat domestic abuse incidents as priority crimes. You will be listened to and your complaint will be taken seriously and their first priority will be to ensure your safety. Even if you decide not to make a criminal complaint, you can report the incident to the police - you may decide to use that evidence later or you may help the police stop further similar crimes.
  • To My Sisters Place. Knowing your options and choices is the first step to making an informed decision about what you would like to happen. Whatever decisions you make, My Sisters Place will ensure that you feel safe and that your voice is heard. A support worker will discuss your options, support you to make choices about your future and advocate on your behalf. Their Support Workers offer emotional and practical support to you around issues such as safe housing, civil legal advice, and support in dealing with the Police and the Courts. Your support worker can talk to you about what you would like to happen and offer some options and choices for you to think about.You can speak to a support worker on 01642 241864 in office hours or you can contact the Women’s Aid 24 hour helpline on 0808 2000 247.
  • To The Halo Project. Halo will give you support and advice about what your options are to ensure your safety and well-being. They work with partner organisations, public bodies and other services to enable the best possible protection and safety from harm for victims of any age or gender. Their first priority is to keep you safe from perpetrators of honour based violence, forced marriage and FGM. In an emergency call 08081 788 424 (free phone). When it's not an emergency but you need to speak to someone for some advice then call 01642 683045.
  • To the University. Students and staff can report any incidents to the University. You can either report an incident and request support from an adviser or report anonymously. If you submit your report anonymously we will not be able to offer you any direct advice or officially investigate the incident. You can use the links at the top of this page to report any incidents.

How can I help someone who's experiencing domestic abuse?

When someone is experiencing domestic abuse they will often speak to someone they can trust. You might not be able to solve their problems but by listening and supporting your friend you can help.

Be Supportive

Make sure they are safe

  • If they are in immediate danger or are seriously injured, call 999.
  • Find a safe place. If this isn't possible you can:
    • Call Campus Security on 01642 342086 or go to their office, Ground Floor, The Library building. They can offer you a physical or CCTV escort across campus if you are feeling vulnerable and you can report any issues to them directly.
    • If you are in Middlesbrough, Safe Spaces is a service for students where they can seek help and refuge if needed. Businesses that take part in this scheme can be easily identified by the yellow Safe Spaces stickers in their windows. This service is for students who feel threatened or vulnerable and they can expect to be given somewhere to sit for a short period of time, first aid (if needed) and a taxi can be rung for them. Current Safe Spaces in Middlesbrough.
    • Go to the Students' Union. All venue staff are either SIA Door Supervisor qualified or working towards their qualification.
  • Listening and believing your friend will help and show them that they are not alone. Be non-judgmental. Leaving an abusive partner is a long process and many people leave and return many times before making a final break from an abusive partner. The National Domestic Violence Helpline provides advice on how to offer support to a friend or family member who is experiencing abuse.
  • From Student and Library Services. You can talk to a student adviser in confidence and discuss the options available to you and your friend, including informing the police, and how to access further support. The adviser will also provide continuing support for any action that your friend may decide to take. Go to the first floor of the Student Centre building and ask to see a student adviser through our drop-in service which is available any time between 9.30am - 4.00pm, Monday to Friday. Or you can call 01642 342277 to book an appointment with a student adviser at the drop-in.
  • From Teesside University Students' Union. The Students' Union Student Support offers independent advice, and their friendly and confidential service can provide support and advice to you and your friend. Student Support is on the first floor of the Students' Union Building and is open 10.00am - 4.00pm (Monday - Thursday) and 11.00am - 4.00pm (Friday).
  • Report an incident

  • To the University. Students and staff can report any incidents to the University. You can either report an incident and request support from an adviser or report anonymously. If you submit your report anonymously we will not be able to offer you any direct advice or officially investigate the incident. You can use the links at the top of this page to report any incidents.

Remember


When helping a friend with through a difficult time, you need to make sure that you look after yourself. It can be worrying when a friend is upset or, if you have had a similar experience yourself, it can bring back difficult memories or feelings. If you want to talk about your feelings whilst respecting your friends' privacy please see the different support options. If you want to talk about your feelings whilst respecting your friends privacy please see the different support options below.


Continuing Support


If you or someone you know have experienced domestic violence there are a range of support options available.

  • Student advisers. A student adviser will listen to your concerns in confidence, offer options and talk about the support available.
  • Counselling service. Our confidential counselling service can support you through any personal or academic difficulties and develop constructive ways forward.
  • Disability advisers. Our specialist staff can help you access support and resources to ensure you have a great experience at Teesside.
  • Your academic school. If you feel able to, you can talk to your personal tutor or lecturer.
  • Student and Library Services. The University offers a wide range of support and advice services to help you.
  • Teesside University Students' Union. The SU offer free and totally independent support with a number of academic and student support issues. The service is also a hate crime reporting centre and offers a mediation service for students who are experiencing difficulties with their housemates.


Other support


  • My Sisters Place is an independent service offering support and advice for anyone who has or is experiencing domestic abuse.
  • The HALO Project is a national charity supporting anyone who has experienced honour-based violence, forced marriage or FGM
  • Victim Support is a national charity giving free and confidential help to victims of crime, witnesses, their family, friends and anyone else affected across England and Wales
  • Samaritans is available 24 hours a day to provide confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress or despair, including those which may lead to suicide.
  • The Mankind Initiative supports male victims of domestic violence, though it helps all callers regardless of sex, race or sexual orientation.
  • Womens Aid offers a range of advice and information for anyone who has experienced domestic violence including a 'Survivors Handbook'.
  • Respect is a UK organisation who work with domestic violence perpetrators, male victims and young people.
  • Route 2 is a local independent service who can help men over 18 who have concerns or worries that they are being abusive in their relationship Middlesbrough Council can give advice about the housing options available in the area.